You learn to wait. To breathe. To think things through and maybe run things past people you trust first, and how to trust people at all.

You learn to stop...assuming you're on you're own, you learn that your instincts aren't the only tools you have any more. And those other tools help you figure out when your instincts are good, and when you need to hold back. And you do that enough, your instincts get a little better.